Year after year people set goals. They want to exercise more, eat healthier, start businesses, get out of debt, end toxic relationships, and create boundaries in their lives.But how many people are actually successful with achieving their goals? How many people truly make lasting changes resulting in transformation?
When it comes to making changes to your health and wellness there are 3 things you need to do BEFORE you actually start making changes. Most people set a goal and jump right into accomplishing it spending time thinking about why they have set their specific goal and a strategy for accomplishing it.
After years of being unsuccessful when it came to reaching my health goals I took some time to journal my thoughts and feelings about my goals.. I knew that I wanted to improve my health so I could be physically able to keep up with and take care of my family. I realized that dedicating time to planning/preparing meals, exercising, and resting were hindering me from making significant positive changes to my health. I pictured myself living a long life, taking care of my family and being there to celebrate all the milestones we would achieve. I also pictured myself starting a business. To do those things I needed to be healthy. I created a vision board that pictorially documented my goals. It was something I could look at each day and remember why I was making the changes. Lastly, I enlisted help to keep me accountable to implementing changes and reaching my health goals. I knew I wouldn’t walk into a gym and exercise on my own so I hired a personal trainer. The trainer helped we with exercises and a nutrition plan. I also participated in a program helped me to examine the root cause of my unhealthy behaviors. Spending this time journaling allowed me to prepare to successfully achieve my goals. I knew where I was at in my life, why I was there, and where I wanted to be in the future.
Getting started on your personal goals will be challenging. Honestly, you may even want to quit many times before reaching your goal. But if you take time to think about these 4 questions before you implement changes I guarantee that your journey will be more rewarding.
I recommend you take out your journal (if you don’t have one I highly recommend you get one) and answer the following questions. The answers may not come right away so it’s okay if you want to take a few days to really think about your answers. But you do not want to skip this exercise! This exercise WILL set the atmosphere for your lifestyle change.
- Why? Why do I want to reach my particular goal?
- What barriers are keeping me from making positive changes?
- What is my vision for my life? Where do I need to be mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually to see my vision come true?
- Who in my circle can keep me accountable?
Why? Why do I want to reach my particular goal?
To know where you’re going you have to know where you been. So where are you right now? What’s not working? What’s pushing you to implement your goal?
Knowing your why will give you the fuel you need to keep striving toward your goal when the journey gets rough (and believe me it will get rough).
What barriers are keeping me from making changes?
Let’s face it. If you truly knew how to accomplish your goal you probably wouldn’t be reading this right now. Many people have barriers that hinder them from making positive changes to their behaviors. What are your barriers to change? Staying up late, procrastinating, over committing, can’t say “no”? What’s holding you back from living out your goal?
What is your vision for your life? Where do you need to be mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually to see your vision come true?
Vision is defined as “the ability to think about or plan the future with imagination or wisdom”. We should all have a vision for our life. Having a vision keeps us motivated, encouraged, and growing. Some people like to document their visions on boards, books, or in their journal. Visions should be written down so you can always refer to it and never forget.
In order for your vision to manifest itself you probably need to change some things in your life. You may need to begin implementing quiet time or bible study before you begin your day. You may need to start taking more time for yourself to relax and reduce stress. You may need to incorporate exercise and meal planning into your schedule so you can have more energy and increased physical strength.
Be honest when answering this question. Lying to yourself is not going to help you achieve the vision you have for your life.
Who in your circle can keep you accountable?
Everyone needs an accountability partner. Who in your life can keep you accountable to the goals you set and the changes you want to make? This may be family, friends, members of a support group, or life coach. This person or persons should be someone you can trust and open up to. You should know that they will keep whatever you share confidential and also be willing to tell you when you’re wrong not just right.
Transforming your life by making changes takes time but it can be done! Taking time to write down your WHY, your BARRIERS, your VISION, and WHO can keep you accountable will set you on the right track to making lasting changes in every area of your life.